All of us expect life to be a bed of roses. Though we do know that life has many challenges and trials, we do not seem to understand them while we are young and our idea of future is always rosy and colorful.
If you look at small children, they truly are loving souls who express the pure feelings. Ask any youngster what he wants to become. Chances are that he will want to become a fire engine driver or a police man. There are other favorites too for many of them want to be train drivers or bus drivers as well as pilots. There are children who love the postman so much that they want to grow up and become one too. As parents we laugh it off but there are many children who grow up pursuing their fantasy dreams and make them come true.
My nephew was one such determined kid. He was the only child and it was quite unfortunate as well as shocking for us that we lost our sister and he grew up without a mother. Of course the fact that he lived with us was comforting for we tried to make up for his loss. But it was his nature that was so endearing and loving that he embraced all of us as his family and never knew the difference. As a child he was always fascinated by the policeman. Unlike many who are scared of policemen, this boy was never afraid. He would walk up to them and shake hands and strike a conversation. His polite demeanor always made them smile and they gave him their time and attention. He was an avid soccer fan and a player too. Most of his high school years were spent either playing or swimming and he grew up having a very strong physique. Little did we know at that time that he was training to be a cop. He took part in all possible events in the college and university. Even while at home he always helped with the community service and volunteered when required. He was one kid who helped us with the Christmas tree every year. We could never imagine Christmas without him.
By the time he passed out of the university, he was very sure of what he wanted to become and there was no other choice. He wanted to join the police force. We did arrange for special coaching for him to be able to write the examination that is required to be written for police officer's course. He scored well on the physical side as well as on logic and reasoning as well as his EQ. The only problem seemed to be that he was pretty soft emotionally and this did show up in his results. Nevertheless he got selected and went for training which he completed with flying colors. He got his posting and settled down nicely in his job, loving every minute of it.
We as a family are very close knit. So it was time for him to get married and that is what was on our mind for quite some time, but nothing seemed to be happening with him. He somehow would evade the question of marriage and we knew that he did not have a girl friend or any such relationship at all. Though he was doing extremely well in his job and was hugely popular, it was quite evident that when it came to matters of heart, there was something wrong; he seemed to have frozen his feelings. Having been a mother to him for so many years, I knew that he needed help to come clean to be able to bring out the hurt of which he had borne within himself for so many years and so I began to pray for him and everyday we in our prayer group included him in our prayers. A few months down the line things began to change in his life. Suddenly he happened to come across a young woman who was a psychiatrist during the course of his job. A chord seemed to have struck and in no time she had understood his problem and helped him come out of it. She had taken him to a very good doctor who not only counseled him but also put him under medication. He was prescribed cialis for a few weeks which helped him over with his erectile dysfunction which had resulted out of the emotional trauma that he had faced during his early childhood. Though he was at peace with himself he hesitated in making a commitment. They lived together for a year while he went through the treatment with the help of Cialis and it was when he was able to resume normal physical relationship that his confidence to marry came about.
Needless to say that they were married and blessed with two children. I happened to visit them during the christening ceremony of the second child. I could see that his first son was an exact replica of the father in all respects. I wasn’t surprised to hear the answer from the child to my question as to what he wanted to become when he grew up. He wanted to become a police office like his father. When I see him in his uniform I feel so happy and thank the lord for having given me such a wonder child to bring up. I was happy and proud to have been his mother.
